GOALS


DETERMINING GOALS

What is the real importance of goals anyway? Well, there are quite a few reasons, but to put it in a nutshell, goal setting really does help to plan and when you plan you can do something about it. Putting a plan into action is what helps to make your dreams come a reality. The process of goal-setting helps you to choose a direction in life. By knowing precisely what he or she wants to achieve, you will know where you have to concentrate your efforts.


Many clients come to me with goals in mind, but need more clarification, direction and a plan of action. Other clients, however, do not even know where to begin and the very idea of goals freezes them up. As a Coach, I want to help clients define their goals, so that they can work on a specific plan of action, keep focused and get the most out of their business, personal and spiritual lives.


It is when individuals become aware of their core desires, dreams and goals, that they gain a sense of hope and freedom.

“Did you know that only 3% of people write down their goals, and of that 3%, 80% reach their goals? That is something worth thinking about. Just thinking about our goals will not make them materialize.


Nevertheless, I feel goals are worth the paper they are written on if ones values are not determined first. Most of the reading I have done suggests that goals go hand-in-hand with success. I want to challenge that by saying that values, passion and desire are the essential ingredients to success.


I believe that he reason why so many people and clients still feel empty after they have achieved a goal is that the goals they strive for are made irrespective of values, passions and desires. When they reach their goals still feeling empty they think that there is something wrong or that they have failed in some way. So they go on to the next goal in search of success, accomplishment and fulfillment.

So it is my belief that before you get started with setting your goals, it is essential to clarify your values, passions and deep desires first.


Questions for Determining Goals

Imagine you are on your deathbed looking back at your life, what is one goal you regret not at least trying to achieve?


1. What achieved goal of yours would you like to be part of your legacy?

2. What do you really want?

3. How will you feel when you get there?

4. How would your life be different if you were living this goal right now?

5. What is important to you about achieving this goal?

6. What will it take for you to make this happen?

7. What is the risk involved if you do not do this?

8. What do you want MORE of in your life? (make a list)

9. What do you want LESS of in your life? (make a list)

10. What could we work on now that would make the biggest difference in your life?

11. Can you visualize yourself having arrived at your goal?

12. Are your expectations realistic?


On a scale 1- 10, with 1 being very weak and 10 being “I’d so anything to achieve this goal’, how strong is your desire?



TAKING ACTION

Life is always changing. That is one thing we can be sure of. Decisions about our lives, our family, out work, our spirituality, our relationships and our personal growth have to be made daily. By procrastinating and putting off these decisions we put off short-term urgencies which ultimately become long-term matters of concerns and goals become very distant longings. It would serve our best interests to take action before we get to that point.


Remember that to achieve goals, as already mentioned it is vital to determine ones values and desires first. If individuals do not align their goals with their values, the chances of you not achieving your goals are pretty high. Even if the goals are reached it leaves a sense of emptiness and continued despair. So as it has already been mentioned it is important to determine values first before setting goals.


When goals have been determined the coach (me) can then help you make your goals specific, measureable and attainable. There are many useful tools which can be used to help you reach your goals such as writing them down on paper, visualization, setting deadlines, quantifying the goal, breaking it down into smaller chunks , doing research, drawing it etc… but if you do not take action it is not possible to move forward.







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1 comments:

Kathleen B. said...

Hi Christine,
What a breath of fresh air it is to see a focus no only on success, but spirituality also. Keep up the good work. It is NOT all about financial success - without developing the whole self the end result is pretty empty. Thanks

February 13, 2008 at 3:25 AM
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