"Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence" –Aristotle


When we recognize our desire to matter, to make a difference, when we are in touch with the yearning in our hearts to be a contribution to life, we want to be worthy of that charge. We become aware of our talents, the possibilities that we have to make a difference in the lives around us whether in small daily actions or in large strokes. We feel a part of the world around us and want to do our part to make it a better place. We start to develop our gifts and remove the blocks to being the best person we can be...

Attitude is all about CHOICE!

Attitude of Gratitude

Think about all that you have, and be thankful. Start a gratitude journal, and take a few moments each day to write down your thoughts. Find something to be grateful for, “such as your friends, family, and some aspect of your health.”

One of the things I have tried very hard to eliminate from my life is negativity. Negativity is nothing but toxic energy. This toxic energy can come in the form of toxic people, or energy whose only job is to suck and drain the life out of you; or toxic situations. When I find myself in one of these toxic environments, be it with people or circumstances, if I cannot turn the situation around, then I merely excuse myself and remove myself.

What you really want is to be surrounded by people you trust and treasure and people that cherish you.

Remember that smiles are contagious. A good spirit encourages everyone around you. Thinking positively gives you a sense of purpose and adds meaning to your life.

Live from the perspective that the universe is conspiring, right now, to bring you exactly what you want and need. Expect a miracle every day. Feel the joy of living in that knowledge or belief, and often do things or take actions to maintain that state of being for yourself.

Attitude is all about CHOICE!

"Genuine kindness is not what we do. It is what we are."

"Hope is not just ... looking out the window and going, 'Everything looks pretty good.' That's what optimism is. Hope is when you look out the window and you go, 'It doesn't look good at all, but I'm going to go beyond what I see to give people visions of what could be.'"– Playwright, university professor and actress Anna Deavere Smith



Lao Tzu, famous Chinese philosopher living over 2500 years ago, stated that the biggest problem in the world is that individuals experience themselves as powerless. Powerless individuals feel helpless, negative, lethargic, frustrated, resentful, and often live in fear, enslaved by circumstances they perceive as beyond their control. A lot of people are very resistant to even thinking about new possibilities and different options.

What does it mean to stand in your own power? Personal power is an inner awareness that makes us feel in control of our lives. It is an inner knowing that we can achieve our goals, a calm conviction about who we are and our ability to get the things we want in life. When you are empowered you feel alive, strong and have clarity. You have a vibrant energy! We trust ourselves to make choices that are in our best interest.


People with a highly developed sense of personal power have the self-confidence to engage in life with integrity, open perspectives, and with full awareness about themselves. Your beliefs, attitudes, mindsets and so on conspire to create your reality.

Personal Power.

To stand in our power we must be bold and confident and have the courage to stand up for ourselves. Standing in our power demands that we be vulnerable, listen to our inner voice, and take risks outside our comfort of what we know. Personal power gives you the inspiration to fulfill your desires in direct alignment with your vision.

It is only when you are conscious that we can powerfully choose the direction of our lives.

"The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others." Albert Schweitzer

Ladies...I ask you: Are you standing in your Person Power?

Certified Life for Women

"Everything that matters in our intellectual and moral life begins with an individual confronting his own mind and conscience in a room by himself."– Arthur M. Schlesinger Jr.


Relationships truly make life special. It is my belief that at the end of the day relationships and connecting with others is what life is all about. It is about the relationship we have with ourselves and the relationships we have with others.

The desire, of course, is to have relationships that are built on love and understanding, regardless of differences of opinion, judgment, belief systems, cultures, distance, earning potential.

However, relationships can be extremely challenging. It is true that no matter how committed, relationships go though tough periods and if not managed correctly, relationships can and do fold under the pressures of daily life.

At times we may wonder if it really is possible to build and maintain real, true, solid, and happy, joyous and very successful relationships with family, friends, romantic partners and colleagues.

In relationships we experience the full spectrum of feelings and emotions that exist such as love, hate, anger, elation, loneliness, frustration, fear, jealousy, lust, infatuation, adorations and others. Some of these feelings and emotions can be destructive and very painful, but I believe that if relationships are built on values such as trust, unconditional love, and commitment, they can withstand and overcome many obstacles and come out on the other side looking glossier, richer and more beautiful than ever.

To make relationships work we need to be aware of our own personal expectations as well as those of the other person and of the relationship involved.
These needs should be made clear in an effort to avoid misunderstanding, and more.

Relationship quotes to help gain a better understanding on relationships and people.

“However good or bad you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the "right" person, because he or she is the mirror of who you are inside.” - Deepak Chopra

“Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships”. - Stephen R. Covey

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” - Anthony Robbins

“The fundamental glue that holds any relationship together is trust”. - Brian Tracy
“Any relationship primarily built on physical attractiveness is predestined to be short lived”. - Zig Ziglar

“Before we can have a successful relationship with anyone, we first need a perfect personal relationship.” - Russ Von Hoelscher

“Don't rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other”. - Russ Von Hoelscher

“Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person”. - Wayne Dyer

“Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement...all success... all achievement in real life grows” - Ben Stein

“When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.” - Deepak Chopra

“It's okay to send flowers, but don't let the flowers do all the talking. Flowers have a limited vocabulary. About the best flowers can say is that you remembered. “- Jim Rohn

“Trust men and they will be true to you; treat them greatly and they will show themselves great.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The value of a relationship is in direct proportion to the time that you invest in the relationship.” - Brian Tracy

“When you look for the good in others, you discover the best in yourself”. - Martin Walsh

“Some people enter our lives and leave almost instantly. Others stay, can forge such an impression on our heart and soul, we are changed forever.” - Author Unknown

“All disagreements are results of misunderstanding someone else's level of consciousness. “- Deepak Chopra

Live passionately... what else have you got to do!

Here is your Friday story!

A Pot of Panatunies
As many times before, my gardening rituals brought about some thoughts. The other day I learned a lesson; but not one of which I didn't already know. The lesson just became clearer because of my hands-on experience.

We have a large pot of panatunies growing in our back yard. You might ask, "What are panatunies?" When our daughter was about 3 years old she proclaimed the name of our petunias by combining the name pansies and petunias. We have used that name ever since to describe our petunias.

Just like roses, if you want more blooms to occur on your petunias, you need to snap off the dried up buds. I don't mind at all dead-heading petunias or roses; in fact it's rather relaxing. So here I was working with this big pot of petunias which are a beautiful deep purple. As I was standing on one side of the pot I picked all the dead ones I could see, and thought I was through. However as I began to move around the pot I began to see more and more of them. For awhile I thought I would never finish. I began to lift up the stems to discover more underneath.

The result I am always trying to bring about is to help maintain a nice looking pot of panatunies. This work always rewards me with new blooms. A few days of laziness had got me to this place and I was paying the price.

The thought that came to me is that if we procrastinate, we pay a price or even worse. We may have to do something over and over to keep the beauty of what we want to accomplish.

In other words, change your perception, your view. Heck, stand at a different spot if you have to. There are times (sometimes many) that you feel you're going around in circles picking off old dried blooms, but what you are really doing is clearing up old negative garbage and being persistent trying out new ideas.

If you want your life to look and feel great there are times that you may have to do something over and over while you're looking under your old beliefs and picking them off to bring forth new and vibrant ones.

Ideas with right action equal a great life, but if you don't feel you're there yet then go back to the pot of panatunies and start over again. You will then find your life enriched with new vibrant blooms.

© Tony Masiello 2008
Tony Masiello is an author, and intuitive consultant. He is the author fo the e-book, Whispers from the Universe, which is a collection of writings that will help you, motivate you, inspire you and guide you along the inner path ofyour life. For more information or to contact Tony, go to his website: www.universalinsight.com

"We spend most of our time and energy in a kind of horizontal thinking. We move along the surface of things ... [but] there are times when we stop. We sit still. We lose ourselves in a pile of leaves or its memory. We listen and breezes from a whole other world begin to whisper."– James Carroll, novelist


As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time...

You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love...

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end,
be afraid that it will never begin.


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Of all the things I love about my life and work is the opportunity to meet amazing and dynamic women. Coaching women to guide them to discover their passion and create a life of purpose and prosperity is the most rewarding thing I could do in life. Watching the women discover inner awarenesses, aha moments, and spiritual breakthroughs is a life altering experience for me.
I am honored to travel with you on this journey of passion, purpose, and life!

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"What really matters is not what function you fulfill in this world, but whether you identify with your function to such an extent that it takes you over and becomes a role that you play. When you play roles you are unconscious. When you catch yourself playing a role, that recognition creates a space between you and the role”.

“So people who are out of touch with the power within or the place where all power resides, the aliveness itself, consciousness itself, then they feel a sense of lack. Why are they not in touch with it? Because they are not present. They are not in the present moment because the present moment is that entry point into that place of power within. If you are not present you don't realize that there is a source of power within and then you feel that you need to get secondary power from someone or some situation or other people. Then the ego plays roles to manipulate the environment and other people to get what it thinks it needs not realizing that all the thing it thinks will give it the power that it seems to lack, all that is already within you, if you could only be present in the now.” ~ Eckhart Tolle, from “A New Earth”


Every woman in the country is socialized to act like a doormat. It doesn't have to be that way! There is a way to learn to say "No," and that even the biggest doormat can change her ways. Here's some advice to cure the disease to please.

Find time for yourself.

Schedule time away from your job, your partner and your children. Use this opportunity to tune in to what you want and need. Don't feel that you're being selfish; you have a responsibility to yourself to take care of your needs.

Buy time
The next time you're asked to do something, don't answer right away. Say, "Let me think about it" or "I have to take care of something right now. I'll call you back and let you know." This will give you time to evaluate the situation and decide if it's something you truly want to do.

Practice saying "No."
For many women, saying "No" doesn't come naturally. But practice makes perfect, so start now! In choosing your responses, remember the K.I.S.S. principle: Keep It Short and Simple. You can try it in the mirror, or even walk around the house saying it. Get used to hearing yourself say the word, and then you'll be ready to use it with other people!

Finding yourself is not about what you add to your life, it's about what you take away. You need to create an “Absolute Yes List,” Once you have created your list, the top priorities in your life, it becomes easier to identify those things that you'll need to let go. Although it may feel uncomfortable to think about saying no, it's important to remember that each time you say yes to someone or something else, you say no to you and your priorities. If saying no is difficult (especially to family members), then make sure you speak to your partner for support before and after you decline a request.

As life coach let me explain, your self-care is always a valid excuse to say no. Don't over-explain or defend your decision. Be graceful and honest. You might say something like: "I'm sorry, but it's just not possible for me to do that," or, "I'll have to decline but thank you anyway."

"See that any time you feel pained or defeated, it is only because you insist on clinging to what doesn't work. Dare to let go and you won't lose a thing except for a punishing idea."

Guy Finley
Author of The Secret of Letting Go


Nobody's journey is seamless or smooth, we all stumble, and we all have setbacks. If things go wrong, you hit a dead end as you will...its just life's way of saying time to change course. Every failures, every crisis, every difficult time...ASK YOURSELF...


As Elisabeth Kulber-Ross stated so eloquently “Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in life has a purpose.”

I believe each of us is born with a life purpose. Indentifying, acknowledging, and honoring this purpose are perhaps the most important action successful people take. They take the time to understand what they’re here to do- and then they pursue that with passion and enthusiasm.


Start paying attention to what is so. Look around at your life and the people in it.
Are you and they happy? Is there balance, beauty, comfort, and ease? Do your systems work? Are you getting what you want? Is your network increasing? Are you getting better in all areas of your life? If not, then something needs to happen, and only you can make it happen.


The easiest, fastest, and best way to find out what is or isn’t working is to pay attention (be conscious) to the results you are currently producing.

You are either rich or you are not. You with command respect or you don’t. You are either maintaining your ideal body weight or you are not. You are either happy or you are not.
It’s that simple. Results don’t lie!

Successful people maintain a positive focus in life and take 100% responsibility no matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps they need to take to get them closer to the fulfillment of their goals rather than all the other distractions that life present to them. They are constantly proactive in the pursuit of their goals.

The bottom line is that you are the one who is creating your life the way it is. The life you currently live is the result of all your past thoughts and actions. You are in charge of your current thought and your present feelings. You are in charge of what you say and what you do. Every action is under your control. To be more successful, all you have to do is act in ways that produce more of what you want.

In closing, ask yourself: How am I creating or allowing this to happen?

Live for the present moment whatever happens to you in the past...the past has no power, and the future has no presence.
Life is now!

“Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend. Non-being is the greatest joy.”

“One who has health has hope, and one who has hope has everything.”

"Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, coworker, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), *but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.* And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles, you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart."


Here is your Friday story,

Curing Victimitis

Watch your thoughts; they lead to attitudes.
Watch your attitudes; they lead to words.
Watch your words; they lead to actions.
Watch your actions; they lead to habits.
Watch your habits; they form your character.
Watch your character; it determines your destiny.

These words of unknown origin tell us that our silent and often subconscious choices shape our future. Every aspect of our lives, at home and at work, can be improved if we use our power to think, reflect, and make conscious choices about our thoughts, attitudes, words, actions, and habits.

Instead, many of us think of ourselves as victims. We complain about our circumstances and what others did to us. Whatever psychological comfort there is in feeling powerless and blameless when things aren't going right, in the end, victims lead unsatisfied lives.

We're most vulnerable to victimitis when we're under the influence of powerful emotions like fear, insecurity, anger, frustration, grief, or depression. These feelings are so powerful, we believe our state of mind is inevitable. Our only hope is they will go away on their own. Yet it's during times of emotional tumult that using our power to choose our thoughts and attitudes is most important. We can't make pain go away, but we can refuse to suffer.

Even when we don't like any of our choices, we do have some -- once we realize we can take control. It isn't easy, but what we do and how we choose to feel about ourselves has a profound impact on the quality of our lives. Victims may get sympathy for a while, but that isn't enough.

Taking personal responsibility for our happiness and success can be scary, but the payoff is enormous. Although we can't make our lives perfect, we can make them better -- usually a lot better.

Michael Josephson


Very few people are immune from homesickness. Kids going to summer camp, people relocating to new jobs, vacationers traveling abroad, and college students leaving home are all subject to yearnings for the comforts of home. Feeling "homesick" may include sadness, loneliness, nervousness, insecurity, missing loved ones, or apathy towards your new environment.

In most cases, periods of homesickness (especially just after a transition) are normal. Not only are you experiencing a major adjustment to your new environment, but you are also experiencing a loss of what was comfortable and predictable. Homesickness can be triggered by major losses, or changes in geography, sleeping/eating patterns, peer groups, living situations, activities, classes, and living accommodations.

Here are some tips that may help you in your transition:

•Give yourself permission to be homesick!

Realize that a period of "homesickness" is a natural response to your transition. Being homesick doesn't mean that you're a "baby", that you're immature or that you're a "mama's boy/daddy's girl". And guess what - others who are in the same boat likely have similar feelings.

•Familiarize yourself with your new surroundings

Once you know your new environment, find your way around, see where your classes are located, and discover some fun hang-outs and activities, you will likely feel more comfort and in control of your situation.

•Explore activities!

Make a list of all the things you like to do and explore what clubs or organizations are available to you. Chances are you'll find one, and if you don't, talk to your residence hall staff or student government about starting one!

•Bring familiar things with you

Sprucing up your apartment or residence hall room with familiar or sentimental items can help ease the shock of a new environment. Having pictures, memorabilia, or favorite possessions with you in your new living space can help facilitate a smoother transition.

•Be open to NEW opportunities

Try to avoid comparing your new environment to home - it's different! Be open to exploring new situations, opportunities, people, classes, and choices. The more open you are to NEW things, the less you might miss PAST things.

•Invite others in your explorations

Getting involved with others and making friends can help you feel less alone. Inviting roommates, classmates, and neighbors to explore the new environment with you can be a great way to initiate new connections, and others in the same situation are likely to join you. Approaching others with a friendly attitude and inviting them to "check out the campus" or "see what's downtown", can often lead to a positive response.

•Keep in touch with friends

Stay in contact with friends and family via e-mail, real mail, and phone calls (as your budget allows!) Tell them all about your new experiences and encourage them to do the same with you.

•Make plans to visit home

Knowing that you have an upcoming trip home set for a specific time may be comforting and allow you to focus on your goals while on campus. It also prevents those impulsive trips home and encourages you to invest in your new life at school. Trips home can be relaxing, but it's important that they don't become your sole focus.

"Anything that is of value in life only multiplies when it is given."
-- Deepak Chopra

This is dedicated to my brave daughter, who recently has spread her wings to soar!

You have left our house to begin a new life of your own. I am so proud of you and what you are doing. I want you to know that raising you and watching you grow up to be who you are...has been a such a blessing- one that I will surely miss.

You are still my child-(my baby-girl);
that will never change.
I will LOVE you forever,
and this also unchangeable.
I am here for you in the same ways
I have always tried to be.
You are my greatest accomplishment
and my source of endless pride.