Very few people are immune from homesickness. Kids going to summer camp, people relocating to new jobs, vacationers traveling abroad, and college students leaving home are all subject to yearnings for the comforts of home. Feeling "homesick" may include sadness, loneliness, nervousness, insecurity, missing loved ones, or apathy towards your new environment.

In most cases, periods of homesickness (especially just after a transition) are normal. Not only are you experiencing a major adjustment to your new environment, but you are also experiencing a loss of what was comfortable and predictable. Homesickness can be triggered by major losses, or changes in geography, sleeping/eating patterns, peer groups, living situations, activities, classes, and living accommodations.

Here are some tips that may help you in your transition:

•Give yourself permission to be homesick!

Realize that a period of "homesickness" is a natural response to your transition. Being homesick doesn't mean that you're a "baby", that you're immature or that you're a "mama's boy/daddy's girl". And guess what - others who are in the same boat likely have similar feelings.

•Familiarize yourself with your new surroundings

Once you know your new environment, find your way around, see where your classes are located, and discover some fun hang-outs and activities, you will likely feel more comfort and in control of your situation.

•Explore activities!

Make a list of all the things you like to do and explore what clubs or organizations are available to you. Chances are you'll find one, and if you don't, talk to your residence hall staff or student government about starting one!

•Bring familiar things with you

Sprucing up your apartment or residence hall room with familiar or sentimental items can help ease the shock of a new environment. Having pictures, memorabilia, or favorite possessions with you in your new living space can help facilitate a smoother transition.

•Be open to NEW opportunities

Try to avoid comparing your new environment to home - it's different! Be open to exploring new situations, opportunities, people, classes, and choices. The more open you are to NEW things, the less you might miss PAST things.

•Invite others in your explorations

Getting involved with others and making friends can help you feel less alone. Inviting roommates, classmates, and neighbors to explore the new environment with you can be a great way to initiate new connections, and others in the same situation are likely to join you. Approaching others with a friendly attitude and inviting them to "check out the campus" or "see what's downtown", can often lead to a positive response.

•Keep in touch with friends

Stay in contact with friends and family via e-mail, real mail, and phone calls (as your budget allows!) Tell them all about your new experiences and encourage them to do the same with you.

•Make plans to visit home

Knowing that you have an upcoming trip home set for a specific time may be comforting and allow you to focus on your goals while on campus. It also prevents those impulsive trips home and encourages you to invest in your new life at school. Trips home can be relaxing, but it's important that they don't become your sole focus.

"Anything that is of value in life only multiplies when it is given."
-- Deepak Chopra

This is dedicated to my brave daughter, who recently has spread her wings to soar!

You have left our house to begin a new life of your own. I am so proud of you and what you are doing. I want you to know that raising you and watching you grow up to be who you are...has been a such a blessing- one that I will surely miss.

You are still my child-(my baby-girl);
that will never change.
I will LOVE you forever,
and this also unchangeable.
I am here for you in the same ways
I have always tried to be.
You are my greatest accomplishment
and my source of endless pride.


Beth Anderson said...

Oh Chris....you made me cry. I miss my baby so much. Hugs!

September 2, 2008 at 7:13 PM
Anonymous said...

I have been away from home for 2 years and really appreciated the tips! Permission to feel homesick... I think I will :)


September 3, 2008 at 3:18 PM
girltimecoaching.net said...

I know Girlfriend, I can understand that feeling (it's ok!) your not alone. Here's the grandest thing... Our babies life may change, but Our love for them Never will.

Hello Julieanne :) It makes me so happy that these tips helped. You are most welcome!

You are a brave girl, transitions can be very emotional! When you have some time Julieanne, you should read a older post of mine...Called - JUST WHO WILL YOU BE? Written by ~ Maria Shriver
I think you will really enjoy! It is Brilliant!!

Bravo for you...to give yourself permission!

ENJOY your LIfe! Laugh a lot. Love a lot.

Christine :)

September 3, 2008 at 5:48 PM
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September 4, 2008 at 9:13 PM
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