FEW OF US WILL GET through life without experiencing some episodes of anxiety, anger, worry or depression.
YOUR OWN WORST CRITIC
Learning to have compassion for oneself is no different from having compassion for others.
'Compassion means feeling moved by other's suffering and offering understanding and kindness when mistakes are made, rather than judging harshly. Self compassion involves acting the same way
towards oneself. So, instead of criticizing ourselves for inadequacies or shortcomings, we learn to be kind and understanding when confronted in difficult times.
WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES AND WE ALL NEED TO BE LOVED
Practicing compassionate imagery
Psychologist Paul Gilbert suggest the following exercise to train our mind in compassion
* Be mindful of your emotions. When you notice that you are becoming frustrated or self critical, make a decision to adjust this in your mind.
* Deliberately focus on breathing for a couple of minutes, and feel your body slowing down.
*Build a compassionate image. This can be a version of yourself, a stranger or someone you know, but it is important you give them the following qualities- wisdom, strength, warmth and non-judgement.
Visualise the facial expression and tone of voice of this person.
*Now imagine you can see the critical or upset part of yourself and consider the thinking and wisdom of this compassion imagine. You are not trying to get rid of these feelings, but are standing back from them with a compassionate understanding.
We frail humans are at one time capable of the greatest good and, at the same time, capable of the greatest evil. Change will only come about when each of us takes up the daily struggle ourselves to be more forgiving, compassionate, loving, and above all joyful in the knowledge that, by some miracle of grace, we can change as those around us can change too.
HH the Dalai Lama:
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it's bottomless, that it doesn't have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space.