To those of you who have just endured a career adversity, join the crowd--and by the way, it's a very distinguished successful crowd.

Many members of the Fortune 500 Club could easily earn membership in the Misfortune 500 Club. Successful people are not people who never fail; they are people who know how to fail well. They have learned to use the leverage of a failure to push themselves up higher.

Read about how to bounce back from a setback or layoff.
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Elbert Hubbard, the author of “A Message to Garcia”, wrote one of the best essays on personal responsibility ever written. He has some great things to say about facing your fears.

“The greatest mistake you can make is continually fearing that you will make one.”


Read that again...
Those 14 words are powerful!



Joe Vitale Inspirational Quotes

“You can have, do or be anything you want.”

“Thoughts are sending out that magnetic signal that is drawing the parallel back to you.”

“Once you experience forgiveness, your outer world changes.”

“It’s really important that you feel good. Because this feeling good is what goes out as a signal into the universe and starts to attract more of itself to you. So the more you can feel good, the more you will attract the things that help you feel good and that will keep bringing you up higher and higher.”

“The thing is, we have to let go of all blame, all attacking, all judging, to free our inner selves to attract what we say we want. Until we do, we are hamsters in a cage chasing our own tails and wondering why we aren't getting the results we seek.”

“You know, when everybody starts to live from their heart, and go for what they want, they don’t go for the same things. That’s the beauty of this. We don’t all want BMWs. We don’t all want the same person. We don’t all want the same experiences. We don’t all want the same clothing. We don’t all want ….. fill in the blank.”

“Now get this: I was happy in the moment. As I'm happy, the next moment brings it's own rewards. As I'm happy in that moment, it too gives birth to more joy.”

“Finally, what I really want is to be happy in this moment, where the magic and miracles happen. Stay in the moment and all gifts are added as you breathe and take inspired action.”




Three passions have governed my life:
The longings for love, the search for knowledge,
And unbearable pity for the suffering of [humankind].

Love brings ecstasy and relieves loneliness.
In the union of love I have seen
In a mystic miniature the prefiguring vision
Of the heavens that saints and poets have imagined.

With equal passion I have sought knowledge.
I have wished to understand the hearts of [people].
I have wished to know why the stars shine.

Love and knowledge led upwards to the heavens,
But always pity brought me back to earth;
Cries of pain reverberated in my heart
Of children in famine, of victims tortured
And of old people left helpless.
I long to alleviate the evil, but I cannot,
And I too suffer.

This has been my life; I found it worth living.

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LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE


Her name is Katie Kirkpatrick, 21 yrs old. Next to her is her fiancée, Nick, 23.
This picture was taken prior to their wedding January 11th, 2005 . Katie has terminal cancer and spends hours in chemotherapy.
Here Nick awaits while she finishes one of the sessions..




Even in pain and dealing with her organs shutting down, with the help of morphine, Katie took care of every single wedding planning.
Her dress had to be adjusted several times due to Katie's constant weight loss.




An expected guest was her oxygen tank. Katie had to use it during the ceremony and reception.
The other couple in this picture are Nick's parents, very emotional with the wedding and of course to see their son marrying the girl he fell in love when he was an adolescent.




Katie, in a wheel chair listening to her husband and friends singing to her.


In the middle of the party Katie had to rest for a bit and catch her breath. The pain doesn't allow her to stand for long period of time.


Katie died 5 days after her wedding. To see a fragile woman dress as bride with a beautiful smile makes you think... happiness is always there within reach, no matter how long it lasts.....lets enjoy life and don't live a complicated life. Life is too short.






work as if it was your first day
forgive as soon as possible
love without boundaries
laugh without control

and never stop smiling
even if you don't know the reason.

Please pray for those suffering from cancer.
We all have close to our heart.

Prayers are always answered

Please feel free to post this power message for awareness.
Blessings

The following 24 guidelines can assist you to enjoy this wonderful feeling


Happiness Is...

1. Experiencing my life as an exciting journey.
2. Courageously doing what I want to do even if I'm scared.
3. Realizing that I have everything inside of me to make me happy.
4. Knowing that I'm the only one who can decide what is right or wrong for me.
5. Thinking positive thoughts which are attracting to me what I want and need.
6. Forgiving myself and others for what I perceive to be not okay.
7. Accepting that I'm okay even when I blunder and learning from my mistakes.
8. Realizing that I'm only responsible for my thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
9. Understanding that what people say or do is a reflection of them and not of me.
10. Listening to my inner wisdom, my intuition.
11. Stimulating my mind and caring for my body.
12. Balancing my life between work and play.
13. Understanding that every precious moment is all that matters.
14. Being caring and loving and pursuing my interests and talents.
15. Learning from my past, setting goals for the future, and focusing on the present.
16. Allowing myself to feel all of my emotions and to express them in healthy ways.
17. Taking the time to smell the flowers.
18. Sharing my truth in a loving way.
19. Overcoming my fears and resolving all my problems with win-win solutions.
20. Accepting changes, and flowing with them.
21. Understanding that my true success of each day is how much I have expressed caring to myself and others.
22. Being grateful for all that I have and for all that I am.
23. Accepting that I am okay and I deserve to be healthy, happy, and successful.



High Eagle:

In life, many thoughts are born in the course of a moment, an hour, a day. Some are dreams, some visions. Often, we are unable to distinguish between them. To some, they are the same; however, not all dreams are visions. Much energy is lost in fanciful dreams that never bear fruit. But visions are messages from the Great Spirit, each for a different purpose in life. Consequently, one person's vision may not be that of another. To have a vision, one must be prepared to receive it, and when it comes, to accept it. Thus when these inner urges become reality, only then can visions be fulfilled. The spiritual side of life knows everyone's heart and who to trust. How could a vision ever be given to someone to harbor if that person could not be trusted to carry it out. The message is simple: commitment precedes vision.

Susan Boyle -Never Judge A Book By Its Cover




Author: Daniel Ng
YouTube video of Susan Boyle is taking the Internet by storm, the video clip has been watched more than 5 million times in just 4 days.

Who is Susan Boyle?


Susan Boyle is a contestant on Britain's Got Talent. She's 47, lives along with a cat. She's frumpy, unemployed, from a small Scottish village. She is unmarried, and never been kissed. Her previous singing experience was limited to the church choir and karaoke. she was treated as a laughing stock when she walked on stage, the audience laughed and the judges shook their heads in disbelief as she said she would like to be as successful as Elaine Paige. In most respects, you might look at this kind of person many as Loser.


And now, go and watch her performance here! (the embed has been disabled). Trust me, It's must watch video, well worth the 7 minutes it takes to view !

Wow! Wow! Wow!

Gosh! What an amazing voice and stunning performance. When Susan Boyle turned mockery into awe and laughter into tears. I thought, what a lesson in humility this is for all of us,

"Everyone laughed at you but no-one is laughing now. I'm reeling with shock." Holden added: "It's the biggest wake-up call ever."

Yup! It's the biggest wake-up call for all of us, There are so many lessons that we can learn from this woman's story. we are just like the three judges and the audience that always love to judge people by appearance and only think the pretty and good looking are expected to achieve. It was rude, cruel and arrogant. Hopefully we learned the old adage: never judge a book by it's cover.

Now go and read her story here and HERE, you will definitely love this lady more!

From The Herald


Susan is a reminder that it's time we all looked a little deeper. She has lived an obscure but important life. She has been a companionable and caring daughter. It's people like her who are the unseen glue in society; the ones who day in and day out put themselves last. They make this country civilised and they deserve acknowledgement and respect.

Susan Boyle - you GO girl!



DO YOU JUDGE OTHER BY THE WAY THEY LOOK?

*The more we accept ourselves, valuing ourselves inside as well as out, the more we accept other people. By seeing that we are all attractive in our own way , we stop belittling ourselves and others.

"Our lack of compassion stems from our inability to see deeply into the nature of things."

ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE



Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul.

Some people come in to your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real.

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"I believe the best leaders are the ones that are focused on bringing out the best in their people - transforming lives. When someone has that as their purpose, the profits just naturally follow."
Susan Bagyura

Positive Thinking: Its Benefits and Limitations


"Every decision you make - every decision - is not a decision about what to do. It's a decision about Who You Are. When you see this, when you understand it, everything changes. You begin to see life in a new way. All events, occurrences, and situations turn into opportunities to do what you came here to do."
Neale Donald Walsch

What Brilliant article...
by Tejvan Pettinger -

We often hear the mantra that positive thinking is a key to our success and happiness. - It is true that thoughts are of crucial importance in shaping experiences in our life. But, what do we actually mean by positive thinking? When is positive thinking helpful and when is it a hindrance?


What Positive Thinking is Not.


1. Expecting that thoughts alone can bring success.

Good thoughts are important for success. But, Edmund Hilary didn’t climb Mount Everest, just by thinking about it. Combine positive thinking by taking practical steps. Don’t just dream - Act.

2. Ignoring our Weaknesses

We need to develop self confidence and belief in our capacities. But, this should not be mistaken for pride and arrogance. If we feel that we are always right, this is a real mistake. This is not so much positive thinking as arrogant wishful thinking. We need to combine self-confidence with a quiet humility.

3. Expecting People will Behave in a Certain Way

Positive thinking should not assume that we can change someone’s nature just through positive thoughts. We should avoid magnifying people’s weaknesses, but, it is a mistake to feel that we can change someone’s nature through positive thinking. In practise we will always be disappointed. Positive thinking can be used to offer goodwill to others, but, do not expect fundamental change from others.

4. Desire for Great Riches through positive Thinking

George Bernard Shaw said there are 2 tragedies in life “One is to lose your heart’s desire. The other is to gain it” If we feel positive thinking is repeating a mantra like ” I will be rich, i will have loads of money” - Maybe we will get money; but, is this what will give us abiding satisfaction? Positive thinking should be used for our self improvement and not our self aggrandizement

How Positive Thinking can Benefit

1. Have Confidence in Yourself.

If we don’t have self confidence, we will never fulfill our potential. Self confidence means we avoid filling our mind with negative thoughts and doubts. It means we have faith in our capacities. It is also means that we are happy to be who we are, and not try to be somebody else.

2. Seeing the Best in Others.

It is easy to see the faults in other people. Often a person’s faults are their most memorable qualities. However, we should try to bring to the fore the good qualities inherent in other people. This is the best way to bring out the best in others. If we concentrate on their weaknesses they just resent it. Here positive thinking is very helpful, because it helps us be more tolerant and understanding.

Only by our positive thinking,
By our bringing the positive qualities
Of others to the fore,
Will this world be able
To make progress.


- Sri Chinmoy

3. Don’t Be suspicious

We live in a suspicious world. But, if we always assume that people are acting from the worst motives, we lose something precious in ourselves. There is an old saying: “A Saint sees everyone else as a saint, a thief looks upon everyone else as a thief” How we view the world is, to some extent, a reflection of ourself. Therefore, we should not project our suspicions onto other people, but, instead be non judgemental. This does not mean we have a blind trust in others. It means we don’t automatically assume a critical mindset. Let us give people the benefit of the doubt, if we are disappointed later, no harm.

4. Gratitude

Gratitude is a wonderful quality which enables us to appreciate the good and beautiful. If we have gratitude we will develop a positive feeling for the world. Gratitude is more than positive thinking, gratitude is our sincere appreciation for other people and other things. It is through gratitude that we can easily avoid a negative frame of mind.

5. A silent Mind

A silent mind creates a very positive vibration. We don’t always need to fill our mind with lots of so called “positive thoughts” - When we cultivate a silent mind, we develop inner peace, which is a very powerful quality. A silent mind enables us to gain focus and an inner inspiration. Therefore, we should take time to silence the mind for a certain period every day. We will find after a period of meditation, positive thinking comes naturally, it doesn’t have to be forced.

ARE YOU BEING YOUR BEST SELF!




Thought I would share the powerful message I received from a friend this morning! :)



"You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it come true."
Richard Bach






Anatole France:

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.

Anne Frank:

We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same.

Carl Sandburg:

Nothing happens unless first we dream.

Carl Schurz:

Our ideals resemble the stars, which illuminate the night. No one will ever be able to touch them. But the men who, like the sailors on the ocean, take them for guides, will undoubtedly reach their goal.



Albert Einstein:

A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.




It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power. Alan Cohen


What's done is done - William Shakespeare
Shakespeare is talking about acceptance. The facts of the past can never be changed. What we can choose is how we view those facts and whether we allow them to corrupt our future. Whatever happened, you did the best you could, given the knowledge and abilities you had at the time. Tomorrow is a new day. Begin with a fresh outlook that does not project your past into your future.

-Jonathan Lockwood Huie

PUT YOURSELF BACK ON YOUR PRIORITY LIST...





Give yourself permission…

I'm pent up. Pressure, pressure, pressure. I need to vent, cut loose. I'm always on my best behavior. I can’t remember the last time I did something silly or fun, laugh out loud…Sound familiar?

What does it mean to have fun? What does it mean to have a good time?

“The proper function of man is to live - not to exist." -- Jack London

u keep goin n goin n goin. . . .

Do you ever feel like the energizer bunny?


Too often we go through life on autopilot, going through the motions and having each day pass like the one before it. Going, going and going.

That's fine, and comfortable, until you have gone through another year without having done anything, without having really lived life.

That's fine, until you have reached old age and look back on life with regrets.

That's fine; until you see your kids go off to college and realize that you missed their childhoods.

It's not fine. If you want to truly live life, to really experience it, to enjoy it to the fullest, instead of barely scraping by and only living a life of existence, then you need to find ways to break free from the mold and drink from life.

What follows is just a list of ideas suggested by Leo Babauta, obvious ones mostly that you could have thought of yourself, but that I hope are useful reminders.


. Love. Perhaps the most important. Fall in love, if you aren't already. If you have, fall in love with your partner all over again. Abandon caution and let your heart be broken. Or love family members, friends, anyone -- it doesn't have to be romantic love. Love all of humanity, one person at a time.

. Get outside. Don't let yourself be shut indoors. Go out when it's raining. Walk on the beach. Hike through the woods. Swim in a freezing lake. Bask in the sun. Play sports, or walk barefoot through grass. Pay close attention to nature.

. Savor food. Don't just eat your food, but really enjoy it. Feel the texture, the bursts of flavors. Savor every bite. If you limit your intake of sweets, it will make the small treats you give yourself (berries or dark chocolate are my favorites) even more enjoyable. And when you do have them, really, really savor them. Slowly.

. Create a morning ritual. Wake early and greet the day. Watch the sun rise. Out loud, tell yourself that you will not waste this day, which is a gift. You will be compassionate to your fellow human beings, and live every moment to its fullest. Stretch or meditate or exercise as part of your ritual. Enjoy some coffee.

. Follow excitement. Try to find the things in life that excite you, and then go after them. Make life one exciting adventure.

. Find your passion. Make your living by doing the thing you love to do. First, think about what you really love to do. There may be many things. Find out how you can make a living doing it. It may be difficult, but you only live once.

. Get out of your cubicle. Do you sit all day in front of computer, shuffling papers and taking phone calls and chatting on the Internet? Don't waste your days like this. Break free from the cubicle environment, and do your work on a laptop, in a coffee shop, or on a boat, or in a log cabin. This may require a change of jobs, or becoming a freelancer. It's worth it.

. Travel. Sure, you want to travel some day. When you have vacation time, or when you're older. Well, what are you waiting for? Find a way to take a trip, if not this month, then sometime soon. You may need to sell your car or stop your cable bill and stop eating out to do it, but make it happen. You are too young to not see the world. If need be, find a way to make a living by freelancing, then work while you travel. Only work an hour or two a day. Don't check email but once a week. Then use the rest of the time to see the world.

. Rediscover what's important. Take an hour and make a list of everything that's important to you. Add to it everything that you want to do in life. Now cut that list down to 4-5 things. Just the most important things in your life. This is your core list. This is what matters. Focus your life on these things. Make time for them.

. Exercise. Get off the couch and go for a walk. Eventually try running. Or do some pushups and crunches. Or swim or bike or row. Or go for a hike. Whatever you do, get active, and you'll love it. And life will be more alive.

. Be positive. Learn to recognize the negative thoughts you have. These are the self-doubts, the criticisms of others, the complaints, the reasons you can't do something. Then stop yourself when you have these thoughts, and replace them with positive thoughts. Solutions. You can do this!

. Kiss in the rain. Seize the moment and be romantic. Raining outside? Grab your lover and give her a passionate kiss. Driving home, Stop the car and pick some wildflowers. Send a love note. Dress sexy.

. Slow down. Life moves along at such a rapid pace these days. It's not healthy, and it's not conducive to living. Practice doing everything slowly -- everything, from eating to walking to driving to working to reading. Enjoy what you do.

. Play with children. Children, more than anyone else, know how to live. They experience everything in the moment, fully. When they get hurt, they really cry. When they play, they really have fun. Learn from them, instead of thinking you know so much more than them. Play with them, and learn to be joyful like them.

. Take mini-retirements. Don't leave the joy of retirement until you are too old to enjoy it. Do it now, while you're young. It makes working that much more worth it. Find ways to take a year off every few years. Save up; sell your home, your possessions, and travel. Live simply, but live, without having to work. Enjoy life, then go back to work and save up enough money to do it again in a couple of years.

. Do nothing. Despite the tip above that we should find excitement, there is value in doing nothing as well. Not doing nothing as in reading, or taking a nap, or watching TV, or meditating. Doing nothing as in sitting there, doing nothing. Just learning to be still, in silence, to hear our inner voice, to be in tune with life. Do this daily if possible.

. Watch sunsets, daily. One of the most beautiful times of day. Make it a daily ritual to find a good spot to watch the sunset, perhaps having a light dinner while you do so.

. Break out from ruts. Do you do things the same way every day? Change it up. Try something new. Take a different route to work. Start your day out differently. Approach work from a new angle. Look at things from new perspectives.

. Laugh till you cry. Laughing is one of the best ways to live. Tell jokes and laugh your head off. Watch an awesome comedy. Learn to laugh at anything. Roll on the ground laughing. You'll love it.

. Make an awesome dessert. I like to make warm, soft chocolate cake. But even berries dipped in chocolate, or crepes with ice cream and fruit, or fresh apple pie, or homemade chocolate chip cookies or brownies, are great. This isn't an everyday thing, but an occasional treat thing. But it's wonderful.

. Try something new, every week. Ask yourself: "What new thing shall I try this week?" Then be sure to do it. You don't have to learn a new language in one week, but seek new experiences. Give it a try. You might decide you want to keep it in your life.

. Be in the moment. Instead of thinking about things you need to do, or things that have happened to you, or worrying or planning or regretting, think about what you are doing, right now. What is around you? What smells and sounds and sights and feelings are you experiencing? Learn to do this as much as possible through meditation, but also through bringing your focus back to the present as much as you can in everything you do.




We frail humans are at one time capable of the greatest good and, at the same time, capable of the greatest evil. Change will only come about when each of us takes up the daily struggle ourselves to be more forgiving, compassionate, loving, and above all joyful in the knowledge that, by some miracle of grace, we can change as those around us can change too.
-Mairead Maguire:

THE POWER OF COMPASSION



FEW OF US WILL GET through life without experiencing some episodes of anxiety, anger, worry or depression.

YOUR OWN WORST CRITIC

Learning to have compassion for oneself is no different from having compassion for other. 'Compassion means feeling moved my others' suffering and offering understanding and kindness when mistakes are made, rather than judging harshly. Self compassion involves acting the same way towards oneself. So instead of criticising ourselves for inadequacies or shortcomings, we learn to be kind and understanding when confronted in difficult times.

* Be mindful of your emotions. When you notice that you are becoming frustrated or self critical, make a decision to adjust this in your mind.

WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES AND WE ALL NEED TO BE LOVED



Bertrand Russell:

Three passions have governed my life:
The longings for love, the search for knowledge,
And unbearable pity for the suffering of [humankind].

Love brings ecstasy and relieves loneliness.
In the union of love I have seen
In a mystic miniature the prefiguring vision
Of the heavens that saints and poets have imagined.

With equal passion I have sought knowledge.
I have wished to understand the hearts of [people].
I have wished to know why the stars shine.

Love and knowledge led upwards to the heavens,
But always pity brought me back to earth;
Cries of pain reverberated in my heart
Of children in famine, of victims tortured
And of old people left helpless.
I long to alleviate the evil, but I cannot,
And I too suffer.

This has been my life; I found it worth living.

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