By Anne Lamott,
We begin to find and become ourselves when we notice how we are already found, already truly, entirely, wildly, messily, marvelously who we were born to be. The only problem is that there is also so much other stuff, typically fixations with how people perceive us, how to get more of the things that we think will make us happy, and with keeping our weight down. So the real issue is how do we gently stop being who we aren't? How do we relieve ourselves of the false fronts of people-pleasing and affectation, the obsessive need for power and security, the backpack of old pain, and the psychic Spanx that keeps us smaller and contained?

Here's how I became myself: mess, failure, mistakes, disappointments, and extensive reading; limbo, indecision, setbacks, addiction, public embarrassment, and endless conversations with my best women friends; the loss of people without whom I could not live, the loss of pets that left me reeling, dizzying betrayals but much greater loyalty, and overall, choosing as my motto William Blake's line that we are here to learn to endure the beams of love.

Oh, yeah, and whenever I could, for as long as I could, I threw away the scales and the sugar....

Becoming the Person You Were Meant to Be: Where to Start
By Anne Lamott


raquel roysdon said...

I love being who I was meant to be :)

March 24, 2010 at 8:56 AM said...

Hello Girlfriend, So lovely to hear from you!! Miss you!

I know...I love each moment I grow to be my best self :) Lovin it!

How are you? I hope this finds you well and joyful.

Sending you tons of Hugs
Christine :) xoxo

March 27, 2010 at 8:46 PM
Gaia said...

I like that, having been through so much and you came with so much vigour, life, fulfilment. You can do it, I can too, becos right I am a mess too. :( but I do see some minor improvements. There is HOPE yet for me . :)

April 3, 2010 at 5:30 AM
complémentaire santé said...

yes life worth living, surviving despites impasses

April 15, 2010 at 2:24 AM
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