"Love is like the sun coming out of the clouds
and warming your soul." - Author Unknown
We begin to find and become ourselves when we notice how we are already found, already truly, entirely, wildly, messily, marvelously who we were born to be. The only problem is that there is also so much other stuff, typically fixations with how people perceive us, how to get more of the things that we think will make us happy, and with keeping our weight down. So the real issue is how do we gently stop being who we aren't? How do we relieve ourselves of the false fronts of people-pleasing and affectation, the obsessive need for power and security, the backpack of old pain, and the psychic Spanx that keeps us smaller and contained?
Here's how I became myself: mess, failure, mistakes, disappointments, and extensive reading; limbo, indecision, setbacks, addiction, public embarrassment, and endless conversations with my best women friends; the loss of people without whom I could not live, the loss of pets that left me reeling, dizzying betrayals but much greater loyalty, and overall, choosing as my motto William Blake's line that we are here to learn to endure the beams of love.
Oh, yeah, and whenever I could, for as long as I could, I threw away the scales and the sugar....
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Becoming the Person You Were Meant to Be: Where to Start
By Anne Lamott
Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside them was superior to circumstances
"We cannot expect to change human nature overnight. If at first we don’t succeed, never give up. Don’t waste time feeling guilty, but instead just reassert you intention to try again. Steady perseverance is the key. This is especially important for habits like excessive worry or anger. It takes time to overcome this kind of habit. Rather than expecting an immediate change we should seek to make gradual process in reducing our bad habits."
“The ability to discipline yourself to delay gratification in the short term in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term is the indispensable pre-requisite for success”Brian Tracy
“I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and noble.”Helen Keller
“There is no failure. Only feedback.”Unknown
“Successful leaders have the courage to take action while others hesitate.”John Maxwell
“Success, real success, in any endeavor demands more from an individual than most people are willing to offer-not more than they are capable of offering.”James Roche
“Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose.”Bill Gates
“How many a man has thrown up his hands at a time when a little more effort, a little more patience would have achieved success?”Elbert Hubbard
“Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.”Ovid
“There isn't a person anywhere that isn't capable of doing more than he thinks he can.”Henry Ford
“Never stand begging for what you have the power to earn.”Miguel de Cervantes
“It's never crowded along the extra mile.”Wayne Dyer
“A ship in harbour is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.”William Shedd
“There is plenty of room at the top -- but no place to sit down.”
1. BE DECISIVE
Success is a choice. You must decide what you want, why you want it, and how
you plan to achieve it. No one else can,will,or should do that for you.
2. STAY FOCUSED
A close relative to being decisive, but your ability to sustain you focus
from beginning to end determines the timing and condition of your
3. WELCOME FAILURE
The fundamental question is not whether you should accept failure. You have
no choice but to except it as a temporary condition on the path way of
progress. Rather, the question is how to anticipate failure and
redirect resources to grow from the experience.
4. WRITE DOWN GOALS
Your mind while blessed with permanent memory is cursed with lousy recall.
People forget things. Avoid temptation of being cute. Write down you
5. PLAN THROUGHLY
Planning saves 10 to 1 execution. Proper planning prevents poor performance.
6. INVOLVE OTHERS
Nobody goes through life alone. Establish your own "Personal Board of
Directors", people whose wisdom, knowledge, and character you respect
to help you achieve your
to arrive at success without having made the trip.
8. REWARD YOURSELF
Rewards work! Think of what you will give yourself as a result of you hard work, focus and persistence - you deserve it!
9. INSPECT WHAT YOU EXPECT
The shelf life of all plans is limited. No plans holds up against
opposition. Everything changes. Therefore inspect frequently and
closely, it's an insurance policy of your success.
10. MAINTAIN PERSONAL INTEGRITY
Maintain your commitment to your commitment. Set your goals; promise yourself
that you will achieve them. Eliminate wiggle room and excuses.
"Your power to choose the direction of your life allows you to reinvent
yourself, to change you future, and to powerfully influence the rest of
~ Stephen R. Covey